I’m recently divorced 2 years ago from a 30 year marriage. My ex had a very well paying job. He quit it to pay me less. He prolonged the divorce and claimed bankruptcy afterwards to try to pay me less. It was recently judged in my favor and he was supposed to pay according to the business he quit. I gave up my career and stayed home to take care of our 4 kids and my elderly parents. I am 4 years older than my ex husband. I am 61 and have taught preschool for 15 years part time. When we were married I was a janitor at our church part time at night to help pay for things. My ex moved to Florida from Virginia for 7 years leaving me to raise my last two kids without their father around. He moved to find his dream job. He has a doc degree in computer development. I have a bachelors in history. I was hit by a car in 2022 and had cervical spine fusion. It affected my balance, hearing, and neck which will last forever. I pray for my ex. Each time o think he will pay spousal support he doesn’t. He does everything he can not to pay. I went through my old 401k to pay for my last child’s first year college tuition. He is not a part of 2 of my children’s lives. He only contacts the other two once every other month. Now I’m dating a boyfriend who is an alcoholic and substance abuser. He does this at night. That’s when he comes mean. We get along in the daytime. He helps pay our rent. 3 out of 4 of my children despise him. I need to figure out if I should leave this person or stay and be financially more stable. He is very well off. Very well. But I still pay half the rent and bills accrued during my divorce. And some utility bills. He does not have me on his will but he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He says I’ll be fine because my ex will pay me. He doesn’t work. He is retired. I have a few months trying to make the decision whether to leave him or stay. At the moment my ex is paying me but I’m scared he will stop again. I am working part time about 30 hours a week. I’m not skilled in computers, and since I’m 61 people aren’t rushing to hire me. But I found a preschool part time job and an afternoon part time job. I’m so scared and I know I shouldn’t be. I had a strong feeling in my heart that God would get me out of the marriage support mess and now my ex is paying. But he tells our children he is starving because of it. Please pray that I can make the right choice to leave or stay with my boyfriend. And please pray that God will provide by keeping my ex paying. If my ex pays what he is supposed to, I can live by myself. I get neighborhood clothing donations and send them to a very very poor school in Georgia. I want to be able to keep helping these kids. Many only have one pair of shoes! Thank you for reading this long request! Bless you forever.
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